Don’t Let Love Change Who You Are

In many relationships  , people unconsciously try to change the person they are with. This is more common in romantic relationships, where there is almost always someone trying to change their lover. But remember this: don’t let love change who you are.

Have you ever considered that the person wants you to love them the way they are and not the way you want them to be?

Love me as I am, with all my strengths and faults

No one is perfect  and it is not often that we find someone who always complements their partner perfectly. Each of us is unique and that is something special.

You shouldn’t change yourself for anyone else – just for yourself. Always keep this in mind, because it is something that you easily forget. Don’t let love change who you are…

If someone wants you to change, that person doesn’t quite appreciate who you are. What if you don’t change? Then things will go wrong and the relationship will collapse. You feel like you are someone else’s puppet. In time you will realize that you are not completely happy.

People who want to share their lives with you will have to accept you as you are, without trying to change you. If you let love change you, you are no longer yourself and you change into someone completely different.

We always say that people should love you just the way you are. If someone tries to change you and you let this happen, it’s because you’re insecure. You think things will get better if you follow their advice. But the bad thing is that  this doesn’t solve the problem.

Maybe you two shouldn’t be together. The desire and love you feel for each other may be because you are very different people. There may be problems you don’t want to make worse, so camouflage them by changing. This is another wrong decision.

Love me more, love me better

There are many toxic people in the world  who try to manipulate us into doing what they want. This happens in many relationships and it’s something that happens when someone wants you to change. They may really want to be with you and you may want to, but this is not the way. They don’t accept you as you are.

People tend to give up almost everything for a relationship to avoid being blamed for not doing everything we could to save the relationship. We don’t want the relationship to end because we didn’t want to change.

However, if you do this, the changes are not positive, on the contrary.

Sometimes people don’t see the difference between the quantity and quality of love. It’s better to be with someone you really love in the right way than with someone you just love very much . Don’t settle for just anyone – you deserve someone who truly loves you deeply.

If you’re low on self-confidence or insecure, you’ll probably change yourself if someone wants you to. 

If this happens it’s ok. Don’t be so hard on yourself. However, it is time for you to learn who you are and how to be happy.

After all, how can you have a happy relationship if you are unhappy? How can you love someone else if you can’t really love yourself?

Beware of toxic relationships and don’t let love change you

Beware of toxic relationships that prevent you from seeing things as they are. Love blinds us all and makes us do things like change ourselves for our partner so that he or she sees that we are fighting for the relationship to save it.

Sure, you have to work hard for a good relationship, but it should never go so far as to cost you your essence, who you really are.

The next time someone asks you to change, tell them, “Love me just the way I am, because I won’t change.” that he must love you the way you are, because you won’t change.

Your partner should accept you as you are. If he doesn’t, it’s not worth being together. This test is not only proof of his love, it is also proof of your love for yourself.