Condemn: What You Say Is You

Judging is almost like a sport. In a way, it’s something we all do, even if it’s unconscious.

We have prejudices about everything around us. In this way we maintain a certain form of control  over things. “This is good, that’s bad. I can trust this person, but better stay away from that…”

It’s easy to fall into stereotypes and other clichés before we get to know someone better.

Of course not everyone is like that. Some people avoid judging judgments because they don’t want to be judged themselves. We should all adopt this attitude to create a more tolerant and harmonious society.

We invite you to take a look at this with us.

Condemning others: avoid this double-edged sword

Only for today: don’t judge. Just for today… look at the world without prejudice and limit yourself to ‘be and be late’. Without a doubt, it would be good for everyone to put this simple advice into practice every day. Relationships would be more respectful and there would be less conflict.

Also read: Learn to love less people more

The problem is that our social brain is guided by the tendency to make quick judgments about things and people. It classifies all that information and stimuli into categories that are then cross-linked to our personality and previous experiences.

• Here’s an example. Imagine you went to college, and there was a professor who treated you badly and made your college days hell. Today you can still remember his expression, his face, his voice, so that every time you meet a person with these characteristics, you project rejection onto him or her.
• Many of our past experiences, and even aspects of our personality, lead us to categorize people based on ideas that don’t always match reality.

Above all, the execution of the words ‘don’t judge’ while others are making hasty judgments about us requires some effort. It forces us to take control of the ‘automated’ process our brain uses to categorize everything we see based on past experiences.

Be smart: when you judge others, you also judge yourself

If you leave your neighbors because they are of a different race, or have a different cultural background, then in reality any judgment that makes against them defines you. You will be characterized as a short-sighted racist.

The man who judges a woman by her bra size also judges himself and his masculinity.

• Whenever we judge another, we should explore this further with a reflection exercise: Why am I thinking this? Why do I think this guy is going to rob me just because he has a tattoo and ripped pants?
• Be smart, calm down, keep calm and try to look at things more objectively, until you are familiar with every detail and aspect, to make a better assessment. Never do this before you have.
  

Base your judgment on clichés but on reality

We need to clarify that we all have the right to maintain and defend the reviews we make. However, reviews should be based on reality, not clichés.

When you know someone well, you have the wisdom that only experience can make you decide whether you like them or not, or whether they match your expectations.

Keep in mind that those who base their assessments on insignificance will miss out on great things in life. If you label your colleague as unfriendly because he/she is always alone, you might miss an opportunity to meet an exceptionally beautiful person.

Judging a particular country as dirty, dangerous, or over-developed might keep you from having the best experiences of your life just because you reject that place. It could be a great place if we could allow ourselves to travel with an open mind, without prejudice.

Also read: Whoever judges me should put myself in my shoes

The best things, people, and events are often overlooked because our prejudices have misled us. Only those with open minds and hearts can truly experience the exciting things that life has to offer.